tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1988973771912568195.post8475395880547166621..comments2023-06-28T06:00:19.147-05:00Comments on Literary Library Life: Parenting and PraiseUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1988973771912568195.post-55533863697244630422011-07-11T19:18:57.183-05:002011-07-11T19:18:57.183-05:00I had no idea about that museum - we will have to ...I had no idea about that museum - we will have to stop by next time we are in the area.<br /><br />StevesPhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04739463401462523202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1988973771912568195.post-12311801312486019202011-07-10T22:43:23.878-05:002011-07-10T22:43:23.878-05:00What an interesting article! I have three childre...What an interesting article! I have three children -- two in adulthood and one still a teenager. If they need therapy, I'd rather it be for doing too much rather than for doing too little! But there is a lot to say for tough love. Letting the kid make a mistake (without putting the child into danger) and learning from it. Sometimes you learn more from your mistakes than from something that went perfectly. <br /><br />Sometimes I think we praise too often and for stuff that doesn't deserve it. I make a conscious effort to give specific praise when it is justified. I think the key word there is specific, not "that's great", but "I really liked the way you colored the trees."Pam Hansenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15100367022809568771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1988973771912568195.post-53471628953154243772011-07-07T13:32:46.142-05:002011-07-07T13:32:46.142-05:00I agree. Giving them a minute to re-orient themse...I agree. Giving them a minute to re-orient themselves is different than letting them scream and scream when they're really hurt. And, of course, infants have a limited range of ways to communicate -- though I expect you've seen a lot, since you pay attention. <br /><br />When my sister in law was pregnant with her second child, my brother said "yes, we're reading all the books again. none of them were true the first time, but you've got to keep yourself busy while you're waiting." I think we're in danger of being overwhelmed by too much 'expert advice' and that it sometimes outweighs common sense.<br /><br />Even a good idea isn't an absolute; if you could write a set of unvarying rules, robots could raise children. Since that's not possible, humans are left with the most difficult and important job on the planet.<br /><br />I'm sure you're doing it well. :) And I appreciate your insightful comments.Lakeshore Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17623278596094168942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1988973771912568195.post-75644252445019059332011-07-07T10:34:45.035-05:002011-07-07T10:34:45.035-05:00Thanks for sharing the parenting article. Happily,...Thanks for sharing the parenting article. Happily, it backs up a lot of my own thinking and learning about child-rearing and teaching. My parents, in my opinion, did an excellent job of balancing support and encouragement with letting me learn to deal with unpleasant things. I like to think it's worked pretty well!<br />My one concern with people reading this article is that they may take the portion talking about letting your child experience frustration, failure, anxiety, etc. and apply it too early. I can see people using that to justify the whole "cry it out" concept for babies, which is actually a very bad (even dangerous) parenting strategy. Snce infants' wants are essentially the same as their needs for quite a while, parents should not just ignore their expression of this needs, claiming they should learn to deal with it. Of course, letting a toddler re-orient him or herself after falilng or letting kids work out a problem in their own way (to a point, we don't need them beating each other up or anything) is very different.<br /><br />Sorry to get so long-winded, but I wanted to make the distinction. Especially as a parent whose attachment style makes lots of people worry that he will be "spoiled" by our responsiveness. Solving all a child's problems is one thing, but loving them too much is not going to ruin them!Bookworm Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05004534127625883487noreply@blogger.com